Do You Need to Fully Heal Before Dating Again? – Last First Date

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In this video, we explore whether you need to fully heal before dating again after a breakup or loss of a partner.

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Do you need to fully heal before dating after a breakup? When is the right time to start dating again after a relationship ends? There no one-size-fits-all answer. Before you can decide for yourself whether you’re ready to date again, it’s helpful to ask yourself the following five questions.  

5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Dating Again

1. Have I learned enough about the obstacles or challenges I brought to my last relationship and taken small steps to shift those patterns so I don’t repeat them in the next relationship?
2. Does my frustration, anger, resentment, bitterness, pain, sadness, or grief towards my previous partner/the breakup still come up often in my thoughts, emotions, and body?
3. Has there been enough time and space after the last relationship to date a new person without comparing everything they say or do to my previous partner?
4. Am I secretly wishing that my previous partner will reach out and want to get back together again sometime in the near future?
5. Why do I want to begin dating again? What is it that I am hoping to gain by dating again at this time, as opposed to what other people tell me is good or bad for me?

After asking yourself these five questions, you should be able to assess for yourself when to start dating again. There is no magic timeline that works for all people. We all heal differently. And the truth is, you may never feel completely healed enough to jump back into dating. If you wait for complete healing, you may never take that first step to move forward and dip your toe back into the dating pool.

When are you really ready? When the feelings of sadness and loss begin to lift when you’re alone with your thoughts, and you can begin to imagine a future with a new partner. You may not FEEL fully ready, but I encourage you to date anyway. Because we heal even more when we’re in healthy relationships.

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