If you’re finding it hard to find love after 50, it might be time to reinvent your love life. Here are 5 steps to help you find your person.
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It’s time to reinvent your love life! Once we reach midlife, it’s more difficult to meet eligible partners. Our friends rarely set us up, and if they do, it’s often a mismatch. At this stage of life, we have to either discover how to date successfully online or learn how to make romantic connections in real life. Both can be a challenge without proper guidance. No matter what your experience with love has been until now, it’s never too late to reinvent your love life, achieve love mastery, and go on your last first date.
Five Steps to Reinvent Your Love Life After 50
Step 1: Connect with the REAL you
Have you been hiding parts of yourself when you’re on a date? You show up looking your best, but you don’t share your feelings or vulnerabilities. Most of us bring our ‘representative’ to dates. By the time you reach midlife, you may not even know who your authentic self is anymore, especially when it comes to dating. As a dating and relationship coach, I see a lot of people-pleasing and peace-keeping behaviors that prevent people from finding their true match. We have learned to go along to get along, but that only lasts so long. At some point, you can’t take it anymore, and the fighting begins. That’s not a healthy way to approach dating and relationships anymore. How to find the real you?
- Focus on your feelings and needs before responding automatically to what others want from you
- Create a clear vision of what you want your life to look and feel like with the right partner
- Create daily habits that align with that vision
Step 2: Remove your love blocks
Unconscious negative thoughts, belief systems, and self-sabotaging patterns are keeping love just out of reach. Until these unconscious patterns become conscious, they will continue to drive your love life. How can you remove these love blocks?
- Process the past by clearing the limiting beliefs and stories that get in the way of true love
- Discover your unhealthy patterns in dating and relationships
- Quiet the negative voices and saboteurs that are holding you back
Step 3: Develop deep self-love
You are a mirror for the love you attract. If you honor and respect yourself, attend to your needs, and express yourself authentically, you will attract in healthier relationships. This is where you begin to receive love from the right people and walk away from the wrong ones.
- Train yourself to listen to your inner voice and trust your own guidance
- Take yourself on solo dates
- Live life fully instead of waiting for a man to fill a void
Step 4: Activate a new dating strategy
Steps 1-3 are all about preparing yourself for love. Step 4 gets you out there dating. Whether you go online to meet more men or meet men in real life, you need to know who you’re shopping for or you may revert into old patterns that don’t work.
- Define your true must-have and deal breaker list
- Learn how to vet men before you go on the first date
- Date less and enjoy it more by putting your new tools to work in the search for love
- Develop good filters by sticking to what matters most, and let go of anyone who exhibits a deal breaker
- Have more fun dating through conscious choices and meeting men who embody your values–releasing any attachment to the outcome
Step 5: Master the art of intentional relationships
When you meet your person, it’s important to continue to be authentic and real. Learn to develop conscious communication skills that enable you to both evolve and grow closer together as your relationship matures.
- Experience deepening levels of love and connection
- Honor your desires and create a shared vision for the journey together
- Develop new skills in conscious communication – emotionally and physically – that enhance your love and your attraction to each other
Practice these five steps in the Love Mastery roadmap, and you’ll create a conscious, loving, lasting relationship. You have a choice. Do you want to continue to do this alone? Or would you rather have a guide to help you change your patterns, lessen the heartache, and learn new skills along the way? If you said you’d like a guide, I’m here for you. You can work with me privately one on one. Or you can do the next best thing and join Love Mastery, an intimate private group that guides you through the same steps as private coaching. Join here https://lastfirstdate.com/love-mastery-program-2/
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