How do you begin dating after divorce? Listen to Bobbi Palmer’s 5 steps to help you date successfully after divorce.
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Dating after divorce can be overwhelming! Bobbi Palmer is a 60-something, happily divorced, proudly imperfect, sometimes sassy, progressive thinking, animal and man-loving internationally recognized dating coach for women over 40. She is known as The Compassionate Truth Teller and has helped thousands of women around the world write their grownup love story.
In this episode of Last FirstDate Radio:
- Bobbi’s story of marrying at 47 for the first time and divorcing 18 years later
- Five steps to help women prepare to date again after divorce
- How to know if you’re ready to date again
- How to work through the hard parts of dating after divorce
EP 618: Bobbi Palmer – How to Begin Dating After Divorce
Give me the quickie background of your marriage and divorce.
I married for the first time at 47. We met on Match and got married pretty quickly. We had a good run for a while. As we aged, things changed. I’m two months post divorce after 18 years. I’ve done a lot of processing, and I look back at the whole thing as a success.
What are your 5 tips to help women prepare to date/look for love again?
- Get good with yourself. Get support looking at yourself through a new lens, not through the lens of your ex or anyone else. One thing that was helpful to me was I realized how much smaller I had become in the marriage. I was afraid my personality had changed.
- Take your time. Things will happen that make you want to react to what your ex is doing. Don’t date out of reactivity. Do the work to get good with yourself.
- Take new action. Make changes that set you up to date in a grownup and happy way. Be clear about what you want and don’t want. Be clear about what you have to offer and what you need to be happy.
- Pay attention to men. If you were in a long term relationship, you were probably not paying attention to other men. Now, pay more attention. How do you feel when you’re with the men you meet? Approach men with curiosity and fun.
- Get online if you need to. If you’re not meeting men, online dating is still a great way to meet men you wouldn’t meet in real life.
What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?
If you decide you want to be coupled again, keep that goal in mind, even when things are scary or awkward. Do the work before you get out there, so you can be sturdy when you get out there. Get clear on what’s going to make you happy right now.
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Website: https://datelikeagrownup.com Free gift to help you date again after divorce: https://datelikeagrownup.com/dad
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