As a dating coach, I believe you should watch “The Golden Bachelorette”. There are four important themes that anyone can relate to!
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While I’m not a fan of the Bachelor franchise, I highly recommend you watch “The Golden Bachelorette” for several reasons. As a golden bachelorette myself, I can relate to the struggles of people dating in their later years. I love that there are finally shows that represent mature people who are looking for love later in life, like the couples I highlighted in my newest book, “Love at Last”. Following are four important themes in “The Golden Bachelorette” that people of all ages will be able to relate to.
Four Important Themes in the Golden Bachelorette
Theme #1: You can find love later in life
It’s about time we defy ageist stereotypes about dating and finding love as we get older. Some of the most meaningful and loving relationships happen when later in life, and Joan seems to have found her second great love. We’re living in an anti-aging culture, especially towards women. “The Golden Bachelorette” celebrates aging and challenges the social norms that dictate that people (especially women) become less attractive or worthy as they age.
Theme #2: Meaningful connections can lead to attraction
Many of the bachelors have deep conversations with Joan about the importance of shared values and life experiences. When we’re younger, we often look for immediate sparks. When we’re older, we search for emotional compatibility that can lead to sparks and physical chemistry. The conversations on the show are heartwarming and meaningful.
Theme #3: Grief is complicated
Joan believed she was open to finding love again after losing her husband, but there were times when she wasn’t sure she was ready. She was still grieving the loss of her husband, and she felt like she might betray him if she found another partner. Grief is filled with ups and downs, and dating after losing a spouse can lead to feelings of guilt and sadness. Many of the bachelors were also dealing with the loss of a spouse, making their journey to find love again a poignant exploration of healing and moving forward.
Theme #4: Male friendships can deepen with age
One of the most delightful surprises of the show was watching the men develop wonderful friendships. While they were all competing for Joan’s affection, their maturity allowed them to also form deep connections with each other. We see them embrace vulnerability and begin to bond over mutual experiences of loss and the difficult process of becoming ready to love someone new. When men are younger, they often connect over sports and other forms of competition. I loved the richness of the emotional bonds that were formed later in life.
There were a few more things that stood out for me. The first was Joan’s thoughtful discussions with each of the men before going to the Fantasy Suites. She chose not to be intimate on the overnights, as she doesn’t feel comfortable being intimate with more than one person at a time.
Joan also displayed incredible sensitivity and kindness in her private meeting with the second to last bachelor after she’d fallen in love with someone else. instead of waiting for the final rose to send him away and break his heart, she has a heart-to-heart and tells him she loves him, but her heart belongs to someone else. I admire her honesty and sensitivity.
“The Golden Bachelorette” has its cheesy Bachelor franchise moments, but overall, these four themes make the show worth watching. I hope more dating shows can take a page out of this program’s playbook because everyone deserves to find love, no matter what age or stage of life they might be in.
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