You might be asking yourself why you can’t attract a good man.
Perhaps you’re also wondering “why do I attract guys I’m not interested in?” Or worse – “why do I attract guys who just want to sleep with me?“
Well, it has nothing to do with your physical beauty or lack of “physical beauty”.
That’s the first thing you should know.
Haven’t you seen and known women who are “average” looking but are able to attract high quality men?
What about the women who are more physically gifted who seem to be rejected again and again by men?
Or perhaps the men sleep with them and then discard them completely, as though their 10/10 look didn’t matter?
Why would that be?
Why Do I Attract Guys I’m Not Interested In?
There are a number answers to this question. Let’s start with the first one.
- The men you’re not interested in will have a crack anyway. They’ll try to get a chance with you, because getting a chance with you would benefit them personally.
It’s in their reproductive interests to try to chase you.
- The guys who excite you upon first meeting them are the same guys that other women who are 8s 9s and 10s are also keen to date.
In other words, there’s high competition for them, so they’re often either already taken or married, or just don’t want you.
- You don’t know how to build attraction with the high quality guys. Ie: you’re assuming that it’s about physical attraction, when it’s really about emotional attraction and emotional connection.
- You have an attraction to the guys who are bad for you. I don’t mean bad boys, but rather, the men who excite you rather than the men who can give you stability, love, acceptance and safety.
- There are actually quality guys who are attracted to you, but you reject them too soon based on how they look, how they dress, what car they drive, what job they have, or based on something else you’re judging them on.
- You’re not actually attracted to genuinely high quality guys. You want a guy who makes you look good or feel rich.
Now: these reasons may seem harsh, but there’s one thing you have to realize: you could judge just about any man for anything.
Even James Bond.
Or John Wick.
That’s the female bias. Or the human bias. Even if you got a real catch, there’s always something you could judge about him or be unhappy about.
I am not saying that you need to lower your standards, because it’s clear that there are high quality men and then there are lower quality men.
MORE: 7 Burning Signs A Man Is Being Low Value.
What I am saying is that sometimes what you want isn’t what’s good for you.
Sometimes what we want isn’t what we need.
Related reading: 10 Telltale Signs He Is A Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male.
Now let’s take a look at the 3 common reasons women fail to attract high quality men.
Don’t Be Like Other Women Who Fail To Attract Men…
As you probably know, too many women in our society are failing to attract men. Or at least the “right” type of men.
Have you ever wished that a particular man would just start to like you or feel hopelessly attracted to you?
Maybe you hoped he would just want to spend more time with you?
Maybe you tried to act a certain way around him or tried to ‘impress’ him to get his attention, but eventually you found out the unfortunate truth…
He somehow wasn’t attracted to you? (And you don’t know why!)
Well, the good news is that attracting a good man comes down to your mindset and to your ability to understand a few fundamental truths about men (and what they value).
Here are the top 3 reasons why women fail to attract men…
Failure Reason 1: Women Are Afraid Of Being Women
That’s right, women are actually scared of being women.
How many times have you seen women who are uncomfortable just being themselves?
I don’t mean wearing Prada, Chanel or sexy high heeled shoes.
I mean: are you truly an individual, the unique version of you – vulnerable, authentically feminine and therefore precious?
Every man wants to feel like he has something precious to hold onto.
But with a lot of women these days, they’re not comfortable being authentic, despite the fact that the topic of vulnerability and authenticity has taken off in the last decade.
People seem to know a lot about vulnerability intellectually, yet know nothing about it’s actual application.
Here’s a video I made for you on how to be vulnerable with a man without being needy:
With women, it’s almost like they don’t have their own permission to be themselves…
Perhaps you know someone, intimately, who’s like this?! (ie. YOU?)
Well, it isn’t really your fault. Sometimes, by being an authentic woman, you can really get yourself into dangerous situations if you were to bring attention to yourself.
(I’m sure you know other women who have been taken advantage of by men!)
You see, men have preyed on women for as long as we’ve been around on this earth. (Not all men, thank god!) So it’s totally justified to not be comfortable being a woman.
(Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I?”)
But here’s the problem…if you’re not comfortable being a woman, (and men are attracted to women), then how are you going to be able to attract men?
How will you be seen as attractive to men? How will men find you desirable?
Also, how would you be a woman of intrinsic value to men?
It will be hard for you to attract men!
No matter how much you will them to be attracted to you, and no matter how hard you try to impress them, you won’t be able to attract good men if you’re not 100% comfortable being a woman.
So it’s time for you to get in touch with your true feminine energy again and be ok with the fact that you ARE a beautiful, naturally vulnerable woman.
And of course, it’s very important for you to stay safe, but don’t let that stop you from being the woman that men are attracted to.
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Failure Reason 2: Women Have Been Raised To Be Masculine By Our Society.
This is a big answer to the question “why can’t I attract a good man?”
Many women today live a very masculine life. They take on a masculine job, speak in a masculine tone of voice and act and hold themselves as if they are competing with other men.
There’s nothing wrong with this by the way, it’s a woman’s birthright to achieve the results she wants; in fact, just as good and better results than men are.
However… being in the masculine energy will instantly kill the attraction that most men will feel for you.
Why?
Because they’ll feel like you’re just like another “guy” friend and there would simply be no polarity.
And he will pick up on this instantly.
(You’ll definitely find it hard to get out of the friend zone with men.)
Think about a time when a man was eyeing you, you could feel him eyeing you, and you could feel him trying to get your attention, but you were repelled.
Now, you may not even be consciously aware of it, but you had already picked up on his energy and make a judgement about whether he was suitable or not within the first 1 second of seeing him.
These reactions are wired in to us as women.
We simply cannot be mating with every single male – he has to be giving off signs of having good genes, and great mate potential.
Men do this to you too. And when you are in your masculine, men feel it.
See: although it’s good to have healthy masculine energy within you, when you always go to masculine mode even while dating, good, high quality men won’t feel value in you.
Because they’ll feel like they’re sitting opposite of themselves.
They’ll feel like choosing you wouldn’t bring any real value worth protecting or keeping in their lives.
Because all that masculine energy is what they already are.
For attraction to occur between a man and a woman, there has to be the masculine-feminine polarity. And without it, you can still be great friends…but achieving attraction…is impossible.
So, most of us women (who have learnt to get a good paying job, secure that career…etc) need to come back to our feminine core and spirit when it comes to men.
It’s that femininity and that sense of being an intrinsically valuable women that so many women have lost touch with… that will be most attractive to men.
This is not to say you need to give up your career, it just means that you can’t always live in your masculine mode all the time. You have to achieve a balance between femininity and getting results in your career/business.
Failure Reason 3: Women Don’t Understand What Naturally Triggers Men To Feel Attraction!
You see… we live in a society where most of us are utterly confused!
Research shows that all of us are being bombarded with over 10,000 sales messages every single day.
No wonder we sometimes get unsure about what to do! There’s simply too much clutter around us!
Have you noticed that intuition has become unpopular? Have you also noticed that common-sense has become rather uncommon?
And worse still, a lot of us women have lost our natural “womanly” intuition!
We are confused about what actually makes men attracted to us and what doesn’t make men attracted to us.
With all the assault of advertising in this 21st century, they’ve really tried to confuse us and keep us feeling insecure so that we collapse under their control.
(I’m talking about the media here, the big corporate industries who only care about their bottom line of sales…)
It’s time for us women to take back control and empower ourselves.
It’s time for us to learn what makes men emotionally attracted to us.
It’s also time for us to re-discover the “Natural Attraction Triggers” that men are genetically hardwired to react to.
Once we discover and put these “Natural Attraction Triggers” to use, us (the lucky ones) will never run out of men who are attracted to us.
We will never run out of men who want to be in committed relationships with us, and want to take care of us for life.
Learn The Attraction Triggers That Get A Man’s Blood Boiling Uncontrollably
See, you don’t have to be “physically gifted”.
Attraction Triggers work regardless of who you are, (or who you’re NOT), your age, your height and weight, regardless of whether you think you have the ability to attract men or not.
They work because it is genetically hardwired in men to seek out these specific triggers. (Click here to find out what attracts men naturally with the eBook on 17 Attraction Triggers)
These “Attraction Triggers” are like nature’s scientific laws, as consistent and as reliable as the law of gravity. It doesn’t matter if you apply them, or if I apply them, they will work.
And if you do apply them, then they will work for you as well.
Men are “Genetically Hardwired” to React to these Attraction Triggers…
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It’s a fact. Us human beings have all evolved from earlier, more ancient forms of life. Starting as sea creatures, and lizards, to mammals to what we are now – homo-sapiens.
You don’t have to like that fact, but you’ll have to live with it.
But here’s what’s interesting…because we have evolved from these earlier creatures, we all have parts of what psychologists call “the lizard brain” inside of us. That’s right, every single one of us has it.
And this lizard brain is responsible for our survival and reproductive instincts. It is there to make sure that us as a species will live on and pass our genetic information on to the next generation.
None of us could have ever arrived here in the 21st century if we didn’t have (and use) our survival and reproductive instincts.
(In fact, those animals which do not have these instincts have become long extinct! Because they cannot survive without the lizard brain.)
Think about the smell of a female dog in season. That smell would attract and catch the attention of all the male dogs in the area.
The male dogs would get so excited that they would literally fight over who will mate with the female.
This is not because they choose to fight, it’s because they’re genetically programmed to do so in order to mate with the female.
Imagine the queen bee… once she matures, she flies around on her “mating flights” and emits her queen pheromone or scent that attracts many different (up to 50) male bees to mate with her.
This scent is a trigger for males to get excited and pay the ultimate attention to the queen bee (because the males die after mating. Sad, but true).
So we can say the same about human males having these triggers for attraction. There is a list of “Attraction Triggers” that will automatically make men’s blood boil with excitement.
Example Of An “Attraction Trigger” For Men
The way you walk (your gait), can instantly make men desire you, but unfortunately, most women don’t know the first thing about the “attractive feminine walk”.
You see… It’s all about the hips.
They’ve done research and what the scientists have found is that when men look at a woman walking, the first place their eyes land…is on the woman’s hips.
And instantly, the man gathers information about how fertile the woman is, as well as her genetic structure. And it is through this information that he will either be “turned on” or not.
You may already know that the wider a woman’s hips are, the higher the chances of her being fertile and having a successful child birth, and therefore the appearance of wide hips are a strong “Attraction Trigger” for men.
No wonder on the catwalk, the stick-thin hipless “supermodels” walk with that overly-exaggerated hip shunt to give the “illusion” of having wider hips. (Even though these skinny supermodels have as much of a set of hips as a match stick…)
But the good news is that you can use this knowledge also to make yourself more desirable.
(I’ve gone into a lot more detail about this and also included exercises for you to implement to master this in my program, so if you want to know more, keep reading…)
Of course there are many other potent “Attraction Triggers” and together (when used synergistically), a man’s reproductive instincts will kick in and I will guarantee his blood will pump faster ‘uncontrollably’ underneath his skin.
It doesn’t have to make any logical sense, it just works.
And for all the skeptical people, yes, there have been literally dozens of proper scientific research to show and prove how effectively these triggers actually work. (And the truth is, all these attraction triggers are based on our instinctive need to reproduce, and are literally hardwired into us.)
These attraction triggers are proven by science, tested in the field, and ready for you to implement today to instantly make yourself the epicenter of desire in any room.
Recommended reading: Will I Ever Find Love? Fix These 4 Common Mistakes & You’ll Find It.
So Here’s What I Have Done For You…
I’ve done all the research for you and I’ve condensed everything down to 17 of the most powerful, most usable and actionable “Attraction Triggers” so that you can immediately use them to make men trip over themselves with desire for you.
I’ve put down what these triggers are, and most importantly, the action steps for you to take right now to use these triggers to not only get the attention of any man you choose, but also to put him under your “love spell”!
Think about becoming at least 5 times as attractive as you are right now, doubling your sex appeal, and having a hypnotic influence over any man.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I attract low class guys?
- Because you talk to them. You’re friendly and willing to talk, so they will go for you (as men have a bias to assume sexual interest in women if women are willing to talk to them). This is called the sexual overperception bias.
- Because low class guys need a mate too.
- Because low class guys will at least try.
- Because you’re afraid of rejection from higher class guys.
- Because high class guys have to put in less work to chase women, as women are already chasing them. Can you imagine Prince William chasing girls on his college campus? No. He’d be too busy fending off women’s advances. (Interestingly enough, I’ve heard that whilst all the women were busy chasing him, it was only kate Middleton who didn’t chase him.)
Why aren’t guys attracted to me?
There are several possible reasons. But here are the biggest reasons why guys aren’t attracted to you:
- You’re giving off one or more of the 7 signs a woman is low value in the eyes of men.
- You’re seeking approval, and it comes off in your energy
- Because you’re comparing yourself to the women who get a lot of sexual attention, and confusing this sexual attention with something valuable (it’s not. It’s just men wanting sex, not a relationship.)
- Because you don’t smile much
- Because your energy comes off as rejecting or closed off
Why do I attract Guys Who Just Want to Sleep With Me?
This is the problem of every woman in the world. Men chase women first for sex, because that’s what is intuitive to them.
Only secondarily do they chase women for a relationship. And it’s only when they’re fallen in love with the woman that they chase a real committed relationship.
Anything less than that and a man might still “fall into” a relationship with you, but still be on the lookout for hie “one and only”.
Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. She graduated with a bachelor of Law and bachelor of Arts majoring in sociology and psychology. She has been a dating and relationship coach for women in the past 15 years and together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 20 million women through their articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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